Advice Column Addresses Two Readers' Family and Pet Concerns

A reader in Michigan wrote that a friend visits several times a year and brings homemade treats or flowers. The friend also brings a small dog that enters multiple rooms and jumps on furniture, including beds and needlepoint chairs. The writer said the dog left mud on the couch during the last visit, requiring two bedspreads and the couch to be cleaned.

When the writer mentioned muddy feet, the friend stated she had wiped them.

The column advised directing the friend and dog to the kitchen and closing the door to limit access to other rooms. If asked why, the reader should state that she likes the dog but no longer wants it on the furniture. The response noted that the reader has the right to set this boundary and that using the patio for visits is an option when weather permits.

A second letter came from a woman living in France for 30 years who has not seen her sister in a decade. The writer said she offered to help pay travel costs for her sister and nephews but received no visits. She stated she has not received photos of her nephews in 10 years and finds the lack of images hurtful.

The column recommended informing the sister of plans to visit the United States and asking whether she would meet. The response said the sister's reply would indicate her willingness to reconnect and that the trip could proceed regardless.